Yesterday I was scrolling through my twitter account when I came across this image.
The 400+ year old Japanese art of kintsugi (golden repair) or kintsukuroi (golden joinery) is a pottery repair method that honors the artifact’s unique history by emphasizing, not hiding, the break. An art form born from mottainai – the feeling of regret when something is wasted – the cracks are seamed with lacquer resin and powdered gold, silver, or platinum, and often reference natural forms like waterfalls, rivers, or landscapes. This method transforms the artifact into something new, making it more rare, beautiful, and storied than the original. (Source: The Kids Should See This)
It really inspired me to write an article about our own breakage as human beings. We live in a society where only the positive and success of people gets the attention. People proudly share these successes on social media and in conversation with others. Pictures are taken only when you’re smiling, celebrating or something special occurs. We have created this monster of expectation of the perfect life, where there is no room for damage, failure or any kind of suffering, at least not in plain sight. This results in people making a constant comparison between their lives and that of others, striving to be the one others look up to, or at least the one with no troubles. But this is all based on an ideal that is not realistic let alone honest! How many of you really answer the question ”How are you”? Aren’t we all programmed to say ”I’m good! Fantastic! How are you”? And how awkward would it be if you would really tell what’s going on inside of you when someone asked you this simple and nonchalant question?
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
― Kahlil Gibran
Why is it that we are filled with shame and guilt about our scars so much, that we do not even mention it? How come we live in a society where there is no room for ”negative” emotions like fear, disappointment, pain, anger, sadness or any other emotion that is part of human nature. Because that is what it really is; part of nature. It is impossible to only focus on the positive without addressing and accepting the negative with that. We are so used to labeling and judging that we dismiss all things we label as negative, even if they play a big part of who we are. Because being broken is beautiful! It builds character and without being broken first, you can not heal in to the person you are supposed to be.
The wound is the place where the Light enters you.
And so I suggest we take this Kintsukuroi as an example of how we should treat our own broken parts. We should not try and hide them out of fear what others might think, on the contrary we should celebrate these scars and wear them like jewelry. My past wounds have taken me on a journey through life and without them I would not have learned all these beautiful lessons I needed to learn to get to where I am today. My broken parts are beautiful because each one of them holds a valuable lesson for me. Each broken part tells a story of this girl that didn’t give up, but fought through the darkest times. I will gladly be the first one to pour gold of acceptance and pride into my scars to make them stand out of the rest that is me, and wear it with pride. Because my broken parts make me an unique, one of a kind, woman.
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