Hello my friends.
How have you been?
I just had a relaxed and insightful weekend. It started last Friday with an unexpected fun evening with my coworkers, and ended right here behind the laptop, taking the time to reflect on everything with Oshun playing in the background (Very very good music for your mind and soul, click their name for the youtube link to the mixtape).
Yesterday I was in the Town with my auntie and uncle, when they stumbled upon an old friend. He was sitting in front of a thrift shop, and while they started to engage in a conversation he invited us inside to come and have a look. I quietly moved around a bit, and as I walked around the corner I noticed a shelf full of books. I started to read the covers and was immediately fascinated by a few of them. I then picked three to buy, because I couldn’t choose between them. The man asked only 2 euro’s for them! Then he told me to go have another look as is prices were so good for me. I did not hesitate and went straight back to that shelf! I walked out of the store with 11 books. The treasures!
The funny thing is, my cousin told me about one of the books two weeks ago, and here it was. These subject aren’t your average roman, so I was especially happy and surprised to have found them there. After hanging out with my family, my friend Ezra came to sleep over. In conversations we had I had a lot of great revelations, one of them being the revelation that everything we experience, is OUR experience. We can not hold anyone else responsible for what we experience. This also means that we should not take anything personal, for it is only that: Experience. Every experience is our teacher. Life is all about experiences. So these are similar to my books found in the thrift shop: treasures. In everything we go through, there is a treasure to be found. Sometimes though, these treasures are hidden, or disguised as something else. It can take the shape of a person handing you the treasure without you knowing it. Some of the most hurtful experiences I have been through, taught me the most valuable lessons.
It seems as if our society only focuses on the highs. Those are the moment you share on social media, talk about filled with pride, and allow to be felt and experienced fully. But the lows are also there. The constant patterns of situations that show you that part of yourself that still needs healing. The situations we attract more than once, just because we still haven’t taken from that what we needed, and so it keeps on coming back to us through different people, experiences, until we finally see it for what it was meant to be: a lesson. Another treasure to take with us. When we let go of the need to achieve something, be validated, understood, seen, heard, or what ever it is that is appearing before us because it is something we need to work on, we allow ourselves to just be. We free ourselves and everyone we encounter, of the constant pressure to satisfy this neediness. And when we do not need anything, we can accept everything as it comes. I have had a lot of issues with needing to be understood, and therefore validated, and it has been quite the theme in my life. In different social situations, I got confronted with these feelings, but most of the time I couldn’t recognize it for what it was. This resulted in blaming others, getting angry and frustrated, because I felt they did not live up to what they needed to do for me: Understand me. See me. Agree with me. Validate me. Don’t leave me. Don’t drop me. But in reality the only one that let me down was me.
Now in order to find these hidden treasures, all we need to learn is how to read the map! The map will tell us exactly where these treasures lie hidden, if we only know how to spot the map and it’s coordinates. Now what’s left is to start reading maps, notice the patterning within our lives and start following the path down to the lessons they came to teach us: treasures.
How lovely is that?
To free myself and the people around me from that burden that is only weighing me down.
Now there is room to just love, without conditions. Real and pure love.
For everyone around me. But even more importantly, for myself. Because it all start with your Self.
It really is all a process, an unraveling of layers upon layers until we finally reach our truth.
After the truth there is nothing else.
After the truth we are free.
Find those treasures.